Sunday, November 15, 2020

Fortified with FAITH

 Today, I am reflecting on pictures I shared earlier and I realized how swift time flies and how far what have been left behind , as well as how far more I will still go on traversing on this journey of mine. This transient JOURNEY. 

I reminded myself to FOCUS on progress, and I am GRATEFUL for the highs and lows. AlhamdulLiLaahi Robbil A'laamin. 

There are so many things to be grateful for, so many things to be HOPEFUL for, so many of how much I need to keep relying on my Lord, Allaah subhanahu wa Taalla. And how much we as humans have nothing to call ours except what Allaah gift us from His bounties. This leaves me with HOPE, LOVE, and fear of Allaah. 

First of my reflection is on GROWTH, it is amazing how things or people grow with time, likewise it is fearful how things or people fall apart with time, how we all fall away with time except if we are mindful of Allaah and see how numbered our stay on this journey is.  Again on growth, I saw the pictures of my tiny little ones and I remember how soft their skins were, how fragile and delicate, how I struggled to hold them when they were little, how fast it seems they are grown, Maa Shaa Allaah. How fearful and hopeful I am as they grow. Like a plant, we all grow and fade away. Like a mold we all will decay over time, like a bird a child will grow and go on its journey, its PURPOSE and be responsible for itself, with TIME. Like moments we all are, fading away with time and preparing for the next journey. Then again, I hope and pray for guidance on this journey for myself and the Amanah that Allaah has gifted me. 

Then I reflect on marriage, the journey of beginning and conclusion, of which should be on Allaah's term else there will be a rumble and grumble. Marriage the time of transition, a progression;  sometimes smooth, and orderly, other time rough and bumpy. But then I asked myself, isn't it what our lives are? 

Marriage is one of Allaah's greatest school of learning. It evolves around choosing between numerous paths, with characteristics and destinations. Indeed a journey it is, encountered with blissful stages or trying periods; SEASONS.  Fortified with the hope of fulfilling an act of worship. 

While I reflect on marriage, then I remembered a particular picture taken at Ibadan, a cute little boy with a beautiful smile that melts my heart. At Ibadan, it was a memory of how that smile helped heal my pain, the pain that comes with marriage, miles away from  my love, and in a place of discomfort to what I used to know. Families with different orientation and perspectives, the dilemma of a new Africa bride, in-laws. I remembered how I trusted myself to be able to deal with it, and I am grateful of how well I coped , and then I remembered how strong I realized I am, I discovered strength that I never knew I had, and I am grateful. But then again, it wasn't me, it was Rahmah. Grateful for several things, top of it is my parents; they did gave me a gift, the gift of good upbringing, I am grateful for Allaah for the gift and MERCY of Islam, I am grateful for my man, his amazing mother, and my beautiful baby boy. I choose to forgive and forget, but I do not want to forget the lesson learned, one of which is to be the best mother and mother in-law, In shaa Allaah. And most importantly to show myself love, and compassion to others. To be myself wholeheartedly. 

Another picture triggered my reflection was our first trip to Memphis, a beautiful Eid, nice time with friends and families, a memorable day it was, a day at Memphis, which is now our home. How we had to take the toughest decision in our lives. Transition. We took the toughest and bravest decision to relocate to Memphis afterward,  and it is a blessing that we hope and pray continues to help us grow in Eeman. It is  funny how colleagues at work keep asking me how I move from New York to Memphis of all places, sometimes I don't have an answer to let them understand how it is a blessing that we are grateful for, all I do is smile and say you really cannot understand. 

The truth is, I do not know where I am going or how far I will go, but every step gives HOPE and I PROCLAIM Allaah's Grace. I am grateful for time and GRACE. I am grateful for my becoming, I am grateful for moments. And I will continue to try  and strive to continue to be in tune with moments and flow,  with hope and reliance on my Lord. 

In our lives, what we can control is how much we TRUST The Creator of our lives and how strong we depend on Him.  How much we need to choose our faith and well-being. 

When I say time heals, seeing those pictures validate it and I am grateful for love, time and GRACE. 

Nothing in this life is permanent or perfect. Being aware of this is soul uplifting and hope strengthening.

The best tool is FAITH and prayers, there is no might nor power except with Allaah.

On traversing on the highs and lows  of this journey requires Rahmah and that is all I seek. I hope you will Trust Allaah more on your journey no matter how rough or tough it seems, then DO your part. 

OBEY and SUBMIT dear striving self.

As salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarkhatuhu.

Sunday, July 12, 2020

Let's TALK about LOVE.

I remember a time when I had to explain the misconception that people have when it gets to expressing love, especially when it has to do with them. 

I understand we all have a part of us that wants something, that likes to be treated in a particular way, likewise we have our own way of treating those whom our hearts feels for. Those we love. Love is a general concept, an important one at that, it is the root of human relationship. 

So, let's talk about LOVE.

How do you show love?
Where do you seek love?
How do you envisioned to be treated if loved?

In understanding love, we need to pray to The Source Of Love, Allaah, Subhanahu wa Talla, to place in our hearts sincere love, and INSIGHTS to deal: for there is purpose for everyone in our lives, and this we need to get straight in order to create a balance, and a healthy boundary for our selves, our soul; because that is all that matters.

Love and DESIRE are the foundation of our religion as Muslims, and this means, we need to understand that whomever or however we desire or love, if we do not get it RIGHT, and not let our love for Allaah be our why for whatever we love, then there is most likely gonna be big heartbreak. 

Gary Chapman, in most of his Love Languages books, he did made the readers understand how to identify the love languages of themselves, or those they love, and how to show it. But, most people are only concerned about their own part of the relationship, their own rights. Well, I am not saying this is wrong. It is not. But, take a little closer look, and change the role.

I mean, slow down your mind. Get back to the true definition of love. This is only attainable when we let our deepest selves to be seen and known. When we honor and agree that Allaah is The disposer of LOVE, and love starts from Him, and ends with Him. And we wholeheartedly show kindness, respect and affections by nurturing it every time, without forgetting that the CORE has a big role to play. This goes for every thing we call love, between spouses, friends, parents or neighbors.  And it needs to be rooted in each party for it to be well nourished.

If you truly need real connection, then be ready to do your part of the game. 

Do you have what it takes? To love, to give and show it.

After reading the book, I did made a few research, and I realized that, a lot of us get some part twisted. 

Well, if you have read the book, and known your love language and how you love to be treated, and what you do not like. Then I want you to use that as a prototype for the other party.  As you have your own language, so does the other people, and if you push them so hard, you may most likely lost them. And this is the root to toxic relationships, when we know our own rights, but fail to know the rights of others. 

What do I mean, take for instance, if you are so typical of your look, anyone who complains about your look maybe be seen as toxic by you. Then it is up to you or the person to be flexible, depending on the relationship goal. Likewise if you love to teach or give orders, you need to understand that not everyone likes to be ordered around, and not everyone has interest in learning.  This may not mean that you are a bad person, but it mean you are being hard on those who don't see things the way you do, and you must have been pushing too hard without you knowing.  Well, I have been here. It will definitely hurt the two parties.  What helps is effective communication and boundaries.  

Well, Chapman says it is secret to love that last. I will say, if you find the love in the right place, and you set your INTENTIONS straight, and not only define it, but ACT and model it.

Do you know love can turn to hate?

Yes. If you love too much, such that you want everything for the other people using the wrong language, then it becomes hate. Take the examples given above.


Why do you love?

Are you willing to let loss and give love?

Do you know you need to Love Allaah before you think about love?

What you need is a mindful love, and this is for you to understand that Allaah is The Only One in charge of our HEARTS. 

My question is, WHO ARE YOU?

When you find that, then there is a clue. 
Together we LOVE more, and glow better.

Love starts from the core, your CORE. 
Love is flexible but wise.
Love is true compassion and understanding. 
Love is real and vulnerable. 
Love can die.
But those who love never lost, the memory lingers. 
Understanding Allaah's part in love prevent heartbreak and builds resilience. 
You need to welcome love, show love and let yourself feel love. 
Love is the root.
Love starts from being mindful of Allaah.

Do not be hard on yourself, Allaah is The Ultimate Truth, whatever the heart comprehend is among The clear Sign of Allaah. Be happy. Love. LIVE. TRUST. be WISE. KNOW that every pleasure without exception will end, but enjoy the MOMENT while being conscious of Allaah in your dealings. 

DO WHAT YOU WILL BE PROUD, and hope to be rewarded for by THE SOURCE OF LOVE. 

live and give ROOM.
give the RIGHTS of Allaah to Him, and the rights of His slaves to them....LOVE.


Please let me know how you define love in the comment section. Or an instance where your definition is misunderstood by someone.

Don't forget that observing moderation and being HAPPY is one of the teachings of The Messenger of Allaah, may Allaah's peace and Mercy be upon him, and his household. 


Remember, heart is the master of knowledge, if you KNOW love, show it with your HEART, hug with your soul, and LOVE with your heart. Beautiful people like you are what make this world beautiful, show and teach others that LOVE is BEAUTIFUL. 

If they don't KNOW it, model it, and never forget human nature and weaknesses. Good deed is like pouring water over filth. Expressing and showing love is a good deed. Even your smile. 

SMILE from the CORE.


Thank you for reading. Talking about love and acting it is beautiful, and I love LOVE. How about you?

Saturday, May 16, 2020

The SHADES of Patience.

 Few days a ago when I was taking a walk with my family, my son who loves picking flowers, went for the rose. The beauty of the flowers and his enthusiasm clouded  his insight  or awareness of the thorns. "Mummy it hurts" I heard him called out. "Well, you have to RESPECT the THORNS when you want to go for the ROSE, else it will prick you." I told him.

Because I am dealing with a curious child, may Allaah bless him, and continue to preserve him upon goodness, we had a few sections talking about roses, their THORNS, and the BEAUTY. 

There is no ROSE without a thorn.
 This is one of my favorite quotes in relative to roses, and it resonates so well as I recently had a previous session with the group of sisters in our female Halaqa, where we talked about PATIENCE.  

Patience! Over the years that I have trained and still learning as an etiquette coach, I have seen PATIENCE as an important tool that most people neglect, abuse, or misunderstand.

My perspective or understanding of patience is influenced by many factors, one of which is when I had to stay with my maternal grandmother and her then best friend  turned sister-in- law, may Allaah have Mercy on their souls and widen their graves(Aamiyn). They were both wonderful people but with different personalities. I am smiling as I write this, it really was FUN and reflective spending time with "Iya Pupa" and "Iya Dudu" (that was what they were called, because of their complexions, and complementary perspectives and personalities.)  

Learning from those two old women was a gift that I am grateful for, AlhamdulilLaah. But hey, experience is not enough. As the mind is said to be a creature of habits which thrives upon the dominating THOUGHTS one feeds it. Not all knowledge that one accumulate through experience is accurate. As Allaah willed, I also had to spend two years with my grandmother in-law  after marriage, another beautiful experience with it's rose and thorns, may Allaah continue to preserve her upon goodness(the only grandma I have left). 

So, as I am growing with time by Allaah's Rahmah, intentionally, and intelligently exploring people, through acquired knowledge of interpersonal relationship, mostly from Islamic point of view, added with my past EXPERIENCES, I am able to define PATIENCE by the circumstances surrounding it, and this is what most people need to understand in regards to it. Nothing beats experience accompanied with required knowledge, alhamdulliLaah for the blessing of Islam which adds meaning to every experience. We as individuals have to have intentional relationships with the teachings of our Deen, as Allaah Subhannahu wa TaAlla has Ordered, the sayings of the Prophet, the companions and those who succeed them. Alaysalatu wasalam.

There are several MISCONCEPTIONS as to what patience really is, especially among women. An example is when a woman is in an abusive or toxic relationship and she keeps indulging it, quite ironic that is her own understanding of patience.  Indulging t animosity, which Allaah, subhanahu wa TaAlla warns us against. We are expected to forbid wrong, not indulge it, Allaah hates it, and it is obligatory on Muslims to stand against it. And by doing so, you do not only help yourself, but the oppressor. Some even term patience as accepting that which is DETRIMENTAL to their NAFS(souls), which is most likely draining them spiritually; that may result in them disobeying the commands of Allaah. So, what is the essence of the patience or tolerance, if you will end up being frustrated to the extent of harming your mental health, or slandering your fellow Muslim if you cannot call them to order. This is FALSE patience, then true definition of patience is forfeit. Patience does not mean we should not be able to see a difference between the time of ease and time of hardship, Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawzi(may Allah bless him) said in his book Uddat As-Sabirin wa Dhakhirat; " This is too difficult, and we are not instructed to be like this. Allaah has created us in such a way that we feel the difference between times of ease and times of hardship, and all that we can do is REFRAIN from panicking at times of stress. Patience does not mean feeling the same at both easy and difficult times. That is beyond us, and is not part of our nature" , and from experience and meeting people, this is one of the best scholarly definition of patience that I have come across. We are not to exceed the permissible limit, that is the real deal in patience.

What then is PATIENCE?

SOBR,(the Arabic meaning to patience) is the best way to describe patience. Patience, Sobr is an Arabic word derived  from the root"to detain", "refrain" or "stop". Literally, or linguistically, Patience is much more than what most people define it to be, or what they assume it to be.The TRUE patience that Allaah commands us, that the Prophet(peace and Mercy be upon him) encouraged us to have, is an attribute that involves CONTROLLING ONESELF properly, to remain away from what intelligence and ISLAMIC law determine one should stay away from, or adhere to.

From the hadith of RasuluLah, the term Sobr is used in several ways, or instances; the usage results in SUCCESS and VICTORY. 

It is a psychological attitude, not just a mere word that we find ourselves use carelessly, without meaning it or acting on it, or truly encouraging those whom we may be preaching it to as required by their situation. Patience is generic and it has distinct name and description

Again, I say "there is no ROSE without THORNS" I have not diverted from this, this phrase resonates  in two ways to me, the first is the concept of PATIENCE - sacrifices, actions, and their rewards or consequences.
rose with thorn.

Patience in term of our Worship to Allaah is the ROOT, it is what we are commanded to have and hopefully get rewarded for it. That is to carefully and consciously walk on THORNS in regards to Taqwah,  how we align every of our dealing while consciously fearing our Lord.  However we established that patience should never deviate from this. 

As narrated in an hadith of RasululLah where; 

Mustaurid al-Qurashi reported:

I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: The Last Hour would come (when) the Romans would form a majority amongst people. 'Amr said to him (Mustaurid Qurashi): See what you are saying? He said: I say what I heard from Allah's Messenger (ﷺ). Thereupon he said: If you say that, it is a fact for they have four qualities. They have the patience to undergo a trial and immediately restore themselves to sanity after trouble and attack again after flight. They (have the quality) of being good to the destitute and the orphans, to the weak and, fifthly, the good quality in them is that they put resistance against the oppression of kings.[Sahih Muslim]

the spectrum of patience, with beautiful REWARD, In Shaa Allaah.

Patience can mean HONOR, a very good example is the story of Prophet Yusuf, when he was said to be seduced by his mistress, but he patiently retrained from the demoralizing request to protect or control his honor, and staying away from such was him being patient within the situation and having his integrity preserved. Which is expected of every morally grounded human. You can be patient with your sexual urges by having self- control, of which the opposite is greed or lust, as said by scholars. There is an instance where the act of patient can mean discretion - staying away from that which may lead you to slandering or lying, by controlling your mouth from such, then you have patience in the usage of your words.

I remember most of the sisters at the Halaqa gave FORBEARANCE as their own understanding of patience, Forbearance is a very popular qualifier of patience, mostly used when there is a need to control anger, instead of taking an hasty decision, or overreacting. 

The spectrum of patience is so much that most of the time people get carried away and overlook one of the act of patience that I personally admire in one of the Sahaba of RasuluLah( May Allaah grant them Mercy), Omar Ibn Khattab; his COURAGE is an incredible act of patience. He was being patient by standing up firmly for the Deen, instead of running away or neglecting the right action. For instance, when he had to demote Khalid as the commander of the Muslim army, his reason was justified, but at that instance, not everyone agreed or understood his point, it took a while for Khalid to agree that their conflicts of opinions was for Allaah's sake as they both had a valid points, whereas the point of the leader supersedes others, as far as it is not contradictory to the rulings of Islam, and Allaah knows best. The Sahaba, from Seerah, knew what is good, they wanted VICTORY and the best act of patience was COURAGE purposely for success for Allaah's sake. 

Most of the times, we choose cowardice where we are supposed to be courageous, and we term it patience. We give in to oppression or abuse; forgetting that maybe the patience we needed was COURAGE. We forget that patience has to be in TERM with INTELLECT and ISLAMIC rulings - we pull more on our spiritual, mental and psychological health, we go for false patience which will earn us more harm, may Allaah help those who need to understand this part of patience. The patience that requires taking ACTION, not necessarily in relating with other people, but maybe on our own internal struggles, like limiting beliefs, self-doubts, procrastination, ego and the likes. Or even self-defence without violating.

Gracefulness and STEADINESS, which is agreeing to the DECREE of our Lord instead of hotheadedness, choosing sincere FORGIVENESS instead of revenge is another beautiful SPECTRUM of patience that has lost it's PURPOSE within our community, when we are supposed to STRIVE to refrain from taking revenge, or paying evil with evil; or you taking the pain to give out from that which you OWN, your GENEROSITY the neglected spectrum of patience- by genuinely choosing to go for patience when others go for stinginess or miserliness. 

At some point in our lives, patience may mean being INITIATIVE instead of being helpless, or blaming or accusing people. Those times when our best patience to go for is manliness. 

Narrated Anas:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "The real patience is at the first stroke of a calamity."

.......Sahih al-Bukhari 

These are TRUE definitions of patience as prescribed by Allaah. He who knows us, and what we can bear. Indeed, His Wisdom is Infinte. 

Allaah says: 

Al-'Asr 103:3

إِلَّا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ وَعَمِلُوا۟ ٱلصَّٰلِحَٰتِ وَتَوَاصَوْا۟ بِٱلْحَقِّ وَتَوَاصَوْا۟ بِٱلصَّبْرِ 

Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience.

Although, as imperfect being, we are not expected to exhibit all of these spectrum of PATIENCE. No! we are not wired that way, we are communal being, created to complement one another, who strive in the right company. This I have learned from the two old ladies. That is how connected we are, when one person needs a particular spectrum at one instance, others are supposed to give a hand, either by counseling, admonishing, or the person outsource the right help. That was the ways of The Companions, our predecessors, those whom we are expected to strive to be like. 

Patience, the ROOT to a serene life, the true obedient to Allaah; if only we can adopt the spectrum when it is needed. And this brings me to this: "where there is a rose there is a THORN".  

The abuse of PATIENCE, the neglect of human weaknesses, the forgetfulness that we all have our strengths and weaknesses. It is unfortunately that most people know little about themselves, to talk of understanding other people, as a result, find themselves in situations where they fail to use the RIGHT patience, they forget that our life journey involves around PATIENCE but in different SPECTRUM, as requiredby TIME. 

Al-Baqarah 2:153

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱسْتَعِينُوا۟ بِٱلصَّبْرِ وَٱلصَّلَوٰةِۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ مَعَ ٱلصَّٰبِرِينَ 

O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.

Dear friend, maybe you own patience in regards to your situation is to be BRAVE, to maintain calmness, to tolerate, to persevere, or supporting others  but first you need to understand yourself and sincerely adopt TRUE patience in accordance to Allaah's commandments.  And most importantly do not get tired of striving, STRIVE, and hope for MERCY.  

PS: Some people may have strong patience in doing what is good, but weak patience in restraining from harmful actions; so be flexible when dealing with others, as our patience differ. True Patience is the best ACTION that can give spiritual joy, and good joy bi'idnilLah. Intention, shariah, shyness or consciousness of Allaah , accepting Qadar , and believe in CERTAINTY!!! And never forget we NEED patience to fulfil our obligations to Allaah. To think for of our choices in both life and HEREAFTER. It is said that patience at the time of ease is harder than at the time of adversity, so we are warned againt the fitnah. May it be easier on us. 

He who is patient, Allaah will bestow patience upon him. I pray Allaah grant you and I the strength to have full PATIENCE for His sake, to seek Mercy in life and hereafter. Aamiyn. 

[Reference:  tafsir Ibn Kathir, Be Patient and Paradise will be Yours(Durussalam books), personal journal and research. And Allaah knows BEST].
Az-Zumar 39:10

قُلْ يَٰعِبَادِ ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱتَّقُوا۟ رَبَّكُمْۚ لِلَّذِينَ أَحْسَنُوا۟ فِى هَٰذِهِ ٱلدُّنْيَا حَسَنَةٌۗ وَأَرْضُ ٱللَّهِ وَٰسِعَةٌۗ إِنَّمَا يُوَفَّى ٱلصَّٰبِرُونَ أَجْرَهُم بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ 

Say, "O My servants who have believed, fear your Lord. For those who do good in this world is good, and the earth of Allah is spacious. Indeed, the patient will be given their reward without account."

Have you ever wondered why this surah was named "The Group", indeed Allaah is the most Wise, Glory be to our Lord.

Friday, May 15, 2020

Seek noor

Dear Soul.
Dear soul seeking Mercy.

You have today.
You have NOW.


Fight for NOOR.

Dear soul: appreciate the GRACE of Now.

Let The Light of Faith be your motivation.

You have Now.
Seek Light upon Light.

You have Now.
Seek light through REPENTANCE.

Dear soul seeking Mercy.


You are granted The Grace
For a reason.


Fight dear soul.

Dear soul seeking Mercy.

Seek NOOR.

Dear soul seeking Mercy.


Dear soul.
Dear soul seeking Mercy,




Bow: dear soul.

Seek solace in SAJDAH.


Bow towards Mercy.
Bow to the obligations.
Bow to abide.
Bow as you seek Mercy.

Dear soul,
Bow to uphold the AMANAH.
The trust given unto you as a believer.

Al-Amanah: that moral responsibility
Al-Amanah: that honesty required of you.
Al-Amanah: THE TRUST.

Bow to it.
Let the AMANAH reside in your heart.


The essence of your BELIEF.


Bow to The QUR'AN in abiding by it.

Bow to the SUNNAH in accepting it.

Bow to the AMANAH.

Dear soul.
Dear soul seeking Mercy.


Accept the invitation wholeheartedly.


REPENT and bow.

Seek solace through wholeheartedness.
Seek solace in SAJDAH.
Seek solace through sincere OBEDIENCE.



Dear soul seeking Mercy.


"For Muslim men and women,- for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in Charity, for men and women who fast (and deny themselves), for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah's praise,- for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward."

"It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger to have any option about their decision: if any one disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he is indeed on a clearly wrong Path."

Surah Al-Ahzab verses 35- 36

Seek Mercy through Obedience.
Do not be among the Foolish.

Friday, March 20, 2020

Where is HOME? COVID-19, a message that home calls.

Where is HOME? 

Have you ever asked yourself what defines a home, or  how home feels like, especially if you are an immigrant like me. As an African immigrant to America, I know how it feels to be an outsider, a lone traveler, there are times that I ponder on where to call home.

 How can you grade the ease you feel wherever you are, and call it home? HOME!! It is that profound that  the dictionary confuses the definition of home.

Again, I ask you my friend, where is home on this journey of ours?
How do you feel at HOME?
 What defines home from your own perspective: is it your feeling, experience or the CORE?

"EVEN people whose lives have been made by LEARNING, sometimes find it hard to keep a fast hold on their habitual views of life, on their faith in the invisible -- nay, on the sense that their past joys and sorrows are a real experience, when they are suddenly transported to a new land, where the beings around them know nothing of their history, and share none of their ideas- where their mother EARTH shows another lap, and human life has other forms than those on which their SOULS have been nourished." ( Excerpt from Silas Marner by George Eliot).

Home, or how we define home is worth reflecting on, the  COVID-19 pandemic outbreak makes me ponder more as to where to really call home, or if we even have a 'home' in this transient journey of ours.

Of course, I see you agree with me that maybe we don't really have a home in this life. Well,  it is right, or slightly right.

Let us assume that we do not have a home in here: what is the PURPOSE of this journey?

One thing that I will love that you understand is that;without death, life is worthless; death adds meaning to life, if you have lost loved ones, you will definitely agree with me that most of the times, we get to realize how much those loved ones worth after their death, SubhanaLlaah!  So, what then defines our purpose of existence, our value , or do you deny that there is a purpose for your existence? Maybe I should construct the question as to how do you add value to your life, or the lives of others?  It is certain that we all are going to die, YOU will leave, I will leave, what do you wan to leave behind? What do you want to be remembered for?

On this transient journey, we have basic needs which will help our purpose achievable- make life WHOLE and fulfilling. We ought to understand that we have numerous choices in life beyond survival, we need to discover that purpose, and create VALUES and standards to integrate transformation into our lives by reconnecting and taking advantage of our INNATE power - maybe we can know what HOME means to us as an individual.

As we embark on this journey, we should be ready to evolve and recover what home means, that innate part of ours- located in our hearts, and tap into its power, and this is our struggle, each one of us go through that struggle and it is real: how we fight it is what defines us.

Home is love - with love we will discover humility, we will view our reality relative to our level of awareness or consciousness, then we will realize how home has ever been with us WHEREVER we GO, then we can make choices to decide whether to let our EGO, greed, destructive desires or negativity rob us of HOMELY feelings, the SERENE feeling that we are SAFE, by being MINDFUL and conscious of  how Supreme God is, and then maybe we can control our actions and thoughts; remember you cannot control death or how it will meet you, but you can control what you would be remembered for!

COVID -19 is never a coincident, it is a REMINDER, corvid, the black eyed birds;
[“Does wisdom perhaps appear on the earth as a raven which is inspired by the smell of carrion?” – Friedrich Nietzsche]. I was talking to a learned friend of mine, who  is presently a member of WHO fellowship, which makes her get direct update about the pandemic, as well as how hard the CDC are working or researching on COVID-19, and she said, "nothing about this VIRUS makes sense", at least for now it doesn't make sense, it is confusing, not only because it is new, but it keeps the WORLD in a panic state; how ironic. An evident of how Mighty Allah is. AlhamduliLLaah.

It is unfortunate that we neglect the essential human needs; unconditional LOVE, guidance, safety,listening,being real,participating,acceptance,opportunity to grieve,respect,validation,tolerance of feelings(we even deny negative emotions, instead of responding to heal), SUPPORT,loyalty,trust,accomplishments,creativity,sexuality(yes, for the married)freedom, and above all NURTURING of our SOUL. We now live in a world of DENIAL, hatred,CHAOS,denial of reality and feelings(instead of taking appropriate actions),mistreatment,low self esteem,guilt and STRESS.

Maybe when this social isolation is over, the wise will realize how CONNECTED we are and supposed to be, as well as how important  KNOWLEDGE  is and how we strive in seeking the right and responding ones for our own sake. COVID-19 is a process and it will past, but it is a reminder to reflect on.

A reminder that this journey called LIFE is a process, you as an individual need to connect with the PURPOSE of that process, before you make sense out of it. The question is, are you playing your part? Do you know the purpose, and are you practicing it? Then you are HOME.

The earlier we start to be aware and AWAKE that innate BEAUTY, the earlier we will understand the CORE; then TRANSFORMATION and hopefully we can return home as a serene BEING- maybe, just maybe we can feel SAFE even in the face of global CHAOS.

Be fulfilled and realize where home is.

I pray that you and I are blessed with clarity and CONTENTMENT; I pray against emptiness and FRUSTRATION.

Soon we shall get there; HOME, if we are willing to go BACK with the right baggage, so we will not be on exile , nor have our hope vanished.

BE HOPEFUL ......nourish your SOUL with the right FOOD.
HOME is where you are YOU without neglecting your CORE.
HOME is that innate POWER.
HOME is where you BELONG.
HOME is your RETURN.
HOME is ever with YOU.
"Has the time not come for those who have believed that their hearts should become humbly submissive at the remembrance of Allah and what has come down of the truth? And let them not be like those who were given the Scripture before, and a long period passed over them, so their hearts hardened; and many of them are defiantly disobedient."

........Al-Hadid 57:16

Sunday, February 2, 2020


The voice I crave to share.....
Those who think they know, know nothing.

Those who are bold enough to ask are either being thoughtful or deceitful

Those who say the truth are bold enough to be vulnerable.

Those who don't say the truth are either careful or being foolish.

Those who turn out the hands of help earn nobody a reward but themselves.

Those who seek help are wise.

Those who don't ask for help when they need it, fools nobody  but themselves or they are being adaptive

Those who accept or question authority are being courageous

Those who assume what is not are being delusional

Those who are loyal followers will be nothing but great leaders.

Those who abuse their leadership power earns nobody's wrath but Allah's.

Those who are claim to be good observant forget the BLUR.

Not all you think is truth is true, get to the root or be just within the context.

Not all those who are quiet are introspective.

Not all those who talk are stupid.

Not all those who help you are feeding their EGO, some may be giving a hand.

Not all those who accept your help are using you, they may be giving you a chance.

Not all those who wander are lost, you better be careful what you feed your thoughts

Not all those who come out seeks attention.

Not everyone who reads this will have the same experience of IT.


Why not be on the safer side.... be curious about ideas and not other people, or be intentional with your curiosity.

These are some of what I used to say when I was little and get beaten most of the times, except for my parents who taught me how to share my views. Today I am a year OLDER and I am grateful for GROWTH, my Parents, the power of perspectives, and INTERCONNECTION, AlhamdulLilLaAh!

 Again, I am grateful for soul connection, I am grateful for you reading this piece, no matter what relationship we share, I am grateful.

Every year I come off my cocoon, promise myself a new GOAL, share my VOICE without violating, TO LIVE and GIVE ROOMS.

make communication EFFECTIVE.
be clear about BOUNDARIES.
RESPECT other's boundaries.


Live and give rooms.
Know your values.

Be strong, know your weaknesses.
Be beautiful, know your flaws.
Be wise, learn from your mistakes.

continue to fall in love with the process of being your best version.


laugh with your eyes,
smile with your heart,
hug with your soul.


Be so positive that people crave your energy.


Be prepared for hate
Brunt of jokes
But be Authentic

And  be
AWARE of everyone's UNIQUENESS.




A reflection on COVID 19

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