On that same Friday, I had an inspiring experience.
WHAT HAPPENED?
I wanted to get to the masjid early, so, I had the kids' clothes ironed before we bathed.
Did justice to my little girl's dress; had it placed somewhere I believed she cannot reach. After I had my bath, I ran the bath for the older one, so I could dry my hair.
I heard "mummy"
Oops, it came through the door.....alas!! My madam had gotten herself dressed up( even though she wore it wrong).
In my head, I was like "Subhannallah!! This girl has messed up the clothes I ironed ..." , then suddenly I heard
"Mummy mummy, look at her, she can wear her clothes by herself, she is now GROWN Maa sha Allah!!"
That was her brother, he was do amazed about it, and he was RIGHT; that didn't even get into my head when I first saw her.
Subhannallah, what my boy said was a stroke of genius, and it erased my initial thought, I smiled, praised the madam, then we laughed it off.
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*REFLECTION*
When I saw the little girl, was my thought right?
Yes, it was very right (from my own point of view).
Of course, she messed up the clothes.
But, come to think of it.......
How about my older one; was his POV right?
Na'am, perfectly RIGHT. He was right, and at that instance, he was more right than I was (in my opinion).
WHY?
As a CONSCIOUS parent, the approach I adapt is looking through the children's eyes -- that way I have been able to help them manage their COGNITIVE and AFFECTIVE skills(because I believe that every experience in early childhood is paramount) , alhamdulliLah(not easy, but the product of the journey is worth the patience bi idnillah).
So, why did I say he was right?
My little girl is only 16 months, she has milestones to reach, she is THRIVING every single day.
That day was another important day in her development (which I am grateful for; I was not ready to let a piece of cloth soil the joy of another cognitive development).
She must have been keeping track of how we do it for her, then, when she saw the clothes, in her innocent eyes, she wants to give it a try, and she did.
As an adult, I wasn't able to picture that immediately, because I was concerned about the effort I put into ironing, and the time I was going to spend in doing it again( which is understandable); but the irony of my POV then was that, that 16 months old definitely doesn't know what was going on in my head or the stress. She was just trying something new.
How she can learn (in case of another time) is a factor of my attitude towards her; how I was able to make her understand RIGHT from WRONG.
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So, where am I driving at?
PERSPECTIVES and SHIFT IN PERSPECTIVE
So many times, we fall into PERSONALITY CLASH or CONFLICT over TRIVIAL issues.
Why?
Perspectives.....
So many times, we judge other people, or we assume we are being judged.
Perspectives......
So many times, we REFUSE to LEARN, because we are not ready for a SHIFT of perspective.
And this is where I am want to delve at:
Perspectives or POINT OF VIEW.
How do we help ourselves, or save ourselves in being entangled in personality clash.
** By being AWARE of ourselves.
** By being OPEN.
** By knowing that it is never meant to be a COMPETITION anybody.
** By KNOWING that we are responsible for ourselves, and what we bring upon ourselves.
Yes, how many times have we let our THOUGHTS about other people INFLUENCE our OPENNESS or how we perceive their POV.
How many time have we let our EGO override our sense of JUSTICE ( justice to respect other human, to appreciate their thoughts, to welcome them for WHO they are....)
How many times have we neglected our own IMPERFECTIONS?
Yes, your imperfections,
My imperfections, or you think what you are now is all by your doing(of course your made effort)?
Think AGAIN;
Na'am, SELF-CONFIDENCE is a virtue....how about SELF-CONSCIOUSNESS?
Girl, there are several other people that are better than you, and they are not what you are. It is a GRACE and a TEST (deal with it humbly, because you are accountable for it, and sure gonna face it ALONE).
So, my dear, our PERSPECTIVES or POV can be influenced by several things, why not give other people EXCUSE and RESPECT their POV, you do not need to AGREE with them -- YES,
Rather, respect them for you know nothing about their thoughts.
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Our standpoint is factor of so many things(I repeat!!), you don't know where they are coming from; show how great your WIT is and respect other people's perspectives.
LIVE AND GIVE ROOM FOR OTHERS....
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When I tell people my family home is challenging and a source of inspiration, that FRIDAY is one of the beautiful good days. alhamdulliLah
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And on the little ones, I will talk about it on my next episode on conscious parenting. In sha Allah
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PS: As Gary Chapman said in his book; that "everyone has a love tank ....."
Fill it, and see what you get in returns.
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As Salam alaykum warahmatullah wabarakhatuhu,
Have a great weekend 🌹
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